Friday, September 19, 2008

Three interview behaviors managers don’t like !

t’s a mistake to think an interviewer is going to be able to look through your exterior to see the exceptionally wonderful person you are inside. As painful as it may be, you have to exercise certain behaviors to be successful in interviewing.

It is a common mistake of the job seeker to believe that interviewers possess some kind of clairvoyance. They think that they really don’t have to go out of their way to present a certain image because an interviewer is going to just magically pick up on their sterling qualities. But the cold, hard reality is you do have to put forth an effort and present some behaviors that your interviewer will respond to. Here’s what to avoid:

  1. Bad non-verbal cues. I know it’s a cliché, but a firm handshake and good eye contact really make a good impression. Now, of course, you can make an exception on the handshake if you have a physical condition that prevents it. Otherwise, do try to give it your best. I can’t explain the psychology behind it, but people tend to equate a limp handshake with weakness. And, unless weakness is a job prerequisite, you’re out of luck. I know I will hear from lots of people who’ll say they’re so shy they can’t make eye contact. I understand that, but, right or wrong, be prepared for an interviewer to take that as a sign that you won’t be able to stand up for yourself at work, and judge you accordingly. If I had a nickel for every time my mother told me to sit up straight, I’d be living on my own island right now, doing absolutely nothing. But let me tell you, there’s something to this “sit up straight” stuff. As a manager, if I’m interviewing someone who is slumped down in the chair, I’m going to assume disinterest in the job. My assumption may not be correct, but it’s the one I’ll make.
  1. Talking too much or not enough. It is perhaps this aspect of an interview that would benefit most from a high emotional intelligence (the ability to read unspoken cues from other people). Watch the interviewer’s eyes. If you’re coasting into minute #20 in your answer to one question, and the interviewer is starting to fidget or yawn, wind it up. On the other hand, if the interviewer pauses after you answer a question, then that may mean he was expecting more.
  2. Not asking questions. I always hated the part where an interviewer asks if I have any questions. Sometimes you can’t possibly know enough just from an interview to be able to form any questions. Sometimes the interviewer has been so thorough in his descriptions of the job and company that there doesn’t seem to be any more to ask. The best questions to ask are those that pertain directly to something the interviewer has said during the interview. It shows you’ve been listening.

Thursday, September 18, 2008

Parrot death

My dearest pet.. parrot died today... since morning he was too dull and in the afternoon he died.. we all miss him !

Sunday, September 14, 2008

Tiring day !

Yesterday, left house to check out Metro early morning (6.00 a.m) with Seraj and Shafi... Metro a super market which only allows professionals. no retail only wholesale... you will find people who has some shop or business buying products from here... Rates for some products were attractive, but it only makes sense if we buy in bulk !!

In the afternoon, went to Mount Mary's ...its FAIR TIME ! 14th Sep to 21st I guess.. retured back home @11.45 pm

Common Problems and Solutions !

  • Ants Problem:

Keep the skin of cucumbers near the place or ant hole.

  • To get pure and clean ice:

Boil water first before freezing.

  • To make the mirror shine:

Clean with spirit

  • To remove chewing gum from clothes:

Keep the cloth in the freezer for an hour.

  • To whiten white clothes

Soak white clothes in hot water with a slice of lemon for 10 minutes 10.

  • To give a shine to hair:

Add one teaspoon of vinegar to hair, then wash hair.

  • To get maximum juice out of lemons:

Soak lemons in hot water for one hour, and then juice them.

  • To avoid smell of cabbage while cooking:

Keep a piece of bread on the cabbage in the vessel while cooking.

  • To rid the smell of fish from your hands:

Wash your hands with a little apple vinegar.
To avoid tears while cutting onions:

Chew gum.

  • To boil potatoes quickly:

Skin one potato from one side only before boiling.

  • To boil eggs quickly:
Add salt to the water and boil.

  • To check freshness of fish:

Put it in a bowl of cold water. If the fish floats, it's fresh.

  • To check freshness of eggs:

Put the egg in water. If it becomes horizontal, it's fresh. If it becomes slanting, its 3-4 days old. If it becomes vertical, its 10 days old. If it floats, it's stale.

  • To remove ink from clothes:

Put toothpaste on the ink spots generously and let it dry completely, then wash.

  • To skin sweet potatoes quickly:

Soak in cold water immediately after boiling.

  • To get rid of mice or rats:

Sprinkle black pepper in places where you find mice or rats. They will run away.

Tuesday, September 9, 2008

The Philosophy of Fasting

Beautiful write up on Ramadan by Sadia Saleem

When a person is overcome by material desires and cravings, he becomes negligent of his spiritual being and indifferent to the obligations imposed on him by his Creator. To help man in combating this onslaught, the Almighty has made fasting compulsory once every year for one whole month -- the month of Rámádhân. With Rámádhân comes restriction on our eating and marital relationship. Compared with some other forms of worship subscribed by Islam, fasting is somewhat demanding because its aim is to discipline and channel our soul. This objective, obviously, can only be achieved by a tough training programme.

When we are having sehri, all of a sudden we hear the Adhan and we stop eating at once. Howsoever strong our need or want to do certain things may be, they are not allowed to us during our fast; we do not give in to our wishes and temptations. This restriction remains till the Maghrib Adhan as God has appointed this time for us to discontinue our fast. Therefore, as soon as the Mu’adhin begins his Adhan, we rush forth to eat and drink. After this, there is no restriction throughout the night. We spend the whole month of Rámádhân in the same way. There is no doubt in the fact that we feel a certain amount of weakness and inability to perform to our full capacity but the patience and piety we acquire in return is as essential to the soul as air, water and food are to the body, for man does not live by bread and water alone but also by that which comes from his Lord.

Fasting is obligatory for every adult and sane Muslim. If during Rámádhân, a person is ill or if he is traveling or if he is unable to fast owing to some reason, then he is required to keep the fasts he has missed whenever he is able to do so.

We gain a lot from fasting. The greatest achievement is that a man’s soul is liberated from the shackles of his wishes and desires and moves a step further towards the lofty summits of knowledge and intellect. He moves a step closer to the Kingdom of Allah by rising above all mundane needs. For this purpose, fasting puts a restriction on all such things that cause an increase in our desires and incline us towards pleasure. When a person endures such constraints, he is able to break his bond with this world and come closer to his Creator. It is this aspect of fasting because of which God says that fasting is for Him and He alone will bestow the reward for it.

The second achievement of fasting is that the doors of temptation and revolt are closed to a great extent. It is the tongue and the private parts on which the devil attacks the most. The Prophet (sws) said that whosoever could give him guarantee of the two things: one between the two cheeks and the other between the two legs, he would guarantee him Paradise. Fasting puts a check on both these instincts and weakens all inclinations of going overboard with these two. It makes it easy for a person to do all things that are pleasing to Allah and refrain from those which are displeasing to Him. It is this fact which the Prophet (sws) has stated by saying that Satan and his army are chained during the month of Rámádhân.

The third thing which a person gains from fasting is that his actual distinction -- freedom of will -- is given a great chance to develop and strengthen so that his character become adorned with the qualities of resolve and determination. He gets disciplined enough to control all sorts of emotions and reactions rising in his self. If a person’s will power is weak he can neither control his wishes from exceeding the limits nor can he remain steadfast on the Shariah. Moreover, he cannot keep such emotions as greed, provocation, hatred and love in check. This requires patience, and, to be patient, it is necessary that he possess a strong power of decision making. Fasting increases this power and disciplines it. It is this power that helps a person to stand for the truth instead of evil. This is the reason that the Prophet (sws) called fasting a shield and asked Muslims to use it in combating evil by just saying: ‘I am fasting’.

The fourth thing a person attains from Fasting is that it inculcates and strengthens the spirit of sacrifice in a person and urges him to show compassion to people who are less fortunate than he. To experience hunger and thirst in a fast brings him closer to the poor and makes him realise their needs. Fasting effects everyone according to his own disposition. People who are sensitive become even more sensitive to and aware of the suffering and sorrow around them.

The fifth thing that a person achieves in Rámádhân is that the solitude and isolation he has in this month inclines him to spend more time in reciting the Holy Qur’ân with a view to understand and practice its teachings. Allah revealed His Holy Book in this month and made this the month of fasting so that people could thank Him for this bounty. Different Ahâdîth have revealed that Gabriel used to come to the Holy Prophet (sws) in this month to hear and recite the Qur’ân.

It is this relationship of the Book of Allah with this month that pious people recite the Qur’ân in their late night prayers while the general masses hear the Qur’ân in the Taravih prayer said after the 'Isha’ prayer. The Holy Prophet (sws) is reported to have given glad tidings of forgiveness of previous sins to whosoever fasts in this month and stands for prayers at night.

The sixth thing that a person gains from fasting is that if he so desires he can become attentive to his Creator with all his heart and soul. For this, the ‘ibadah of I‘tikaf has been prescribed in this month. Although this is not obligatory for everyone, it is a very essential form of worship to incline our hearts towards God. In religious parlance, I‘tikaf means that a person should isolate himself from everyone in the mosque for ten days or less according to his convenience and devote himself to the Almighty, and unless an indispensable need arises, he should not come out. The Prophet (sws) was very particular in observing I‘tikaf throughout his life.

All these things can be attained from fasting, but for this it is necessary that the person who is fasting should refrain from all wrong doings, which if present during a fast, obliterate all its blessings. Although these wrongs are many, but there are some about which everyone should be aware of at all times.

One of these wrongs is that people tend to make Ramadan a month of festivities and fun time. They think that they are not answerable for the extravagance made in this month. They relish everything they eat. The result is that instead of trying to discipline themselves they end up pampering themselves. Throughout their fasts they keep dreaming about the delicious things they will eat once the fast is over. The result is that they end up learning nothing from their fasts.

To prevent such a thing from happening, it is necessary that a person should eat just enough to keep him working and not make eating the sole object of his life. Whatever is obtainable without too much of an effort should be eaten with thankfulness to the Almighty. Whatever the family presents should be consumed without fuss even if it is not tempting. The rich instead of overindulging themselves should give more to the needy and the poor. This is something that increases the blessings of fasting and has been commended by the Prophet (sws).

The second wrongdoing one often comes across is that because hunger provokes anger, people instead of making fasting a way of correcting it give hunger as a reason to justify it. They tend to quarrel at the slightest pretext with their wives and children and those under them. They do not hesitate to utter any slighting remark which come to their mind and sometimes if matters get out of hand even resort to abusing and beating. After this they tend to defend themselves by saying that things like this happen during fasting.

The remedy which the Prophet (sws) of God has suggested in this regard is that instead of using fasting as instigation for anger one should use it as a shield and whenever a person is incited he should remind himself that he is fasting. If we can remember this every time we get angry, we will see that slowly and gradually the greatest provocation tends to lose its sting. Once we realise that we can conquer the Satan within our soul, this feeling of conquest gives us peace and a sense of greatness. Thus such a reminder becomes a means of our correction.

The third wrongdoing often perpetrated in fasting is that a lot of people, when restricted from eating and enjoying some other pleasures of life, tend to keep themselves busy with other things which they think would not harm their fast. They play cards, read novels, listen to music, watch movies, sit among friends and gossip, and even indulge in backbiting. When one’s stomach is empty, one tends to enjoy his brothers’ meat more. The result is that sometimes a person begins his morning with one of these pastimes and ends when the Mu’adhin announces the break of fast. It is obvious that all these things ruin a fast.

One solution to this problem is that a person should try to remain silent in respect of his fast and at least for this month put a lock on his tongue. Allah’s Prophet (sws) says that if a person keeps telling all sorts of true and false things during his fast, then God does not need his abstinence from food and drink.

The second remedy for this is that whatever time he has to spare, he should spend it in the study of the Qur’ân and Hadith and in understanding his religion. He should try to learn some of the supplications mentioned in the Qur’ân and also those narrated in the Ahâdîth. In this way, he will keep away from the above mentioned activities and later use this store of prayers to remember his God.

The fourth wrongdoing in this regard is that sometimes a person does not fast for God but just under pressure of his family or to prevent other people to think badly of him or just to put on a religious posture. This is also quite obviously something which negates the purpose of a fast.

The cure for this is that every person should keep reminding himself about the importance of fasting and think that if he is going to abstain from food and other things then why not for Allah. Apart from Rámádhân, he should keep additional non-obligatory fasts and try to conceal them and hope that the obligatory ones will also one day be for Allah alone.

with permission from:
Renaissance: A Monthly Islamic Journal Pakistan

Ramadan in History

Muslims should not semi-hibernate during Ramadan

Shaikh Abdullah Hakim

All praises to Allah, Lord of the worlds. He who revealed in His Glorious Qur'an, "Oh you who believe, fasting is prescribed for you as it was prescribed for those who came before you that you may keep your duty to your Lord (having taqwa)," 2:185. And may blessings and peace of Allah be upon His last Messenger Muhammad ibn Abdullah, forever.

Oh you who believe, Ramadan is a sacred month wherein Almighty Allah is constantly testing His creation and giving humanity the opportunity to achieve infinite, endless Bliss. Fasting is a complete purification and a means to developing the consciousness of Allah's presence. The consciousness of Allah (Taqwa) is a protection against the schemes of Shaitan, and the suffering of this world. Allah has informed us that, "Whoever keeps his duty to Allah (has taqwa), He ordains a way out for him and gives him sustenance from where he imagines not. And whoever trusts in Allah, He is sufficient for him. Surely Allah attains His purpose. Allah has appointed a measure for everything." (65:2)

Many Muslims today have a misconception about fasting and the activities of a fasting person. They go into a state of semi-hibernation, spending most of their daylight hours in bed. If they fear Allah, they wake up for prayer, but then return to sleep immediately. This unnatural sleep makes them become lazy, dull-witted and often cranky.

Ramadan is actually a time of increased activity wherein the believer, now lightened of the burdens of constant eating and drinking, should be more willing to strive and struggle for Allah. The Prophet (pbuh) passes through approximately nine Ramadans after the Hijrah. They were filled with decisive events and left us a shining example of sacrifice and submission to Allah.

In the first year after the Hijrah, the Prophet (pbuh) sent Hamza ibn Abdul Mattalib with thirty Muslim riders to Saif al Bahr to investigate three hundred riders from Quraish who had camped suspiciously in that area. The Muslims were about to engage the disbelievers, but they were separated by Majdy ibn Umar al-Juhany. The Hypocrites of Al-Madinah, hoping to oppose the unity of the Muslims, built their own masjid (called Masjid al-Dirar). The Prophet (pbuh) ordered this masjid to be destroyed in Ramadan.

On the seventeenth of Ramadan, 3 A.H., Almighty Allah separated truth from falsehood at the Great Battle of Badr. The Prophet (pbuh) and 313 of his companions set out to intercept a caravan of their own goods that had been left in Makkah. It was led by Abu Sufyan, himself, and estimated at 50,000 dinars. They were met, instead, by a well-equipped army of the nobility of Quraish, intent on putting out the light of Islam. Despite being outnumbered three to one and appearing weak and unseasoned, the Muslims defended their faith with a burning desire to protect the meet their Lord through martyrdom. Allah gave them a decisive victory on this day of Ramadan, that would never to be forgotten.

In 6 A.H., Zaid ibn Haritha was sent to Wadi al-Qura at the head of a detachment to confront Fatimah bint Rabiah, the queen of that area. Fatimah had previously attacked a caravan led by Zaid and had succeeded in plundering its wealth. She was known to be the most protected woman in Arabia, as she hung fifty swords of her close relatives in her home. Fatimah was equally renowned for showing open hostility to Islam. She was killed in a battle against these Muslims in the month of Ramadan.

By Ramadan of 8 A.H., the treaty of Hudaibiyya had been broken and the Muslim armies had engaged the Byzantines in the North, Muhammad (pbuh) felt the need to strike a fatal blow to disbelief in the Arabian Peninsula and conquer the city of Mecca. Allah had declared His Sanctuary a place of peace, security and religious sanctity. Now the time had come to purify the Kaabah of nakedness and abomination. The Prophet (pbuh) set out with an army having more armed men than Al-Madinah had ever seen before. People were swelling the army's ranks as it moved toward Makkah. The determination of the believers, guided by the Will of Allah, became so awesome that the city of Makkah was conquered without a battle, on 20 Ramadan. This was one of the most important dates in Islamic history for after it, Islam was firmly entrenched in the Arabian Peninsula. During the same month and year, after smashing the idols of Makkah, detachments were sent to the other major centers of polytheism and al-Lat, Manat and Suwa, some of the greatest idols of Arabia, were destroyed.

Such was the month of Ramadan in the time of the Prophet (pbuh). It was a time of purification, enjoining the good, forbidding evil, and striving hard with one's life and wealth. After the death of the Prophet (pbuh), Muslims carried on this tradition and Allah used the true believers to affect the course of history. Ramadan continued to be a time of great trials and crucial events.

Ninety-two years after the Hijrah, Islam had spread across North Africa, Iran, Afghanistan, Yemen and Syria. Spain was under the tyrannical rule of King Roderic of the Visigoths. Roderic had forced his six million serfs and persecuted Jews to seek the aid of the Muslims of North Africa in order to be delivered. Musa ibn Husair, the Umayyad governor of North Africa, responded by sending his courageous general Tariq ibn Ziyad at the head of 12,000 Berber and Arab troops. In Ramadan of that year, they were confronted with a combined Visigoth army of 90,000 Christians led by Roderic, himself, who was seated on a throne of ivory, silver, and precious gems and drawn by white mules. After burning his boats, Tariq preached to the Muslims warning them that victory and Paradise lay ahead of them and defeat and the sea lay to the rear. They burst forth with great enthusiasm and Allah manifested a clear victory over the forces of disbelief. Not only was Roderic killed and his forces completely annihilated, but Tariq and Musa succeeded in liberating the whole of Spain, Sicily and parts of France. This was the beginning of the Golden Age of Al-Andalus where Muslims ruled for over 7000 years. In the year 582 A.H., Salahuddin al-Ayyubi, after battling with the Crusaders for years, finally drove them out of Syria and the whole of their occupied lands in the month of Ramadan. The Muslim world was then destined to meet one of its most frightening challenges.

In the seventh century A.H. the Mongols were sweeping across Asia destroying everything that lay in their path. Genghis Khan called himself "the scourge of God sent to punish humanity for their sins. "In 617 A.H. Samarkand, Ray, and Hamdan were put to the sword causing more than 700,000 people to be killed or made captive. In 656 A.H. Hulagu, the grandson of Genghis Khan, continued this destruction. Even Baghdad, the leading city of the Muslim world, was sacked. Some estimates say that as many as 1,800,000 Muslims were killed in this awesome carnage. The Christians were asked to eat pork and drink wine openly while the surviving Muslims were forced to participate in drinking bouts. Wine was sprinkled in the masjids and no Azan (call to prayer) was allowed. In the wake of such a horrible disaster and with the threat of the whole Muslim world and then Europe being subjected to the same fate, Allah raised up from the Mamluks of Egypt, Saifuddin Qutz, who, united the Muslim army and met the Mongols at Ain Jalut on 25th Ramadan, 458 A.H. Although they were under great pressure, the Muslims with the help of Allah, cunning strategy and unflinching bravery, crushed the Mongol army and reversed this tidal wave of horror. The whole of the civilized world sighed in relief and stood in awe at the remarkable achievement of these noble sons of Islam.

This was the spirit of Ramadan that enabled our righteous forefathers to face seemingly impossible challenges. It was a time of intense activity, spending the day in the saddle and the night in prayer while calling upon Allah for His mercy and forgiveness.

Today, the Muslim world is faced with drought, military aggression, wide-spread corruption and tempting materialism. Surely we are in need of believers who can walk in the footsteps of our beloved Prophet (pbuh), the illustrious Sahabah, Tariq ibn Ziyad, Qutuz, Salahuddin and the countless heroes of Islam. Surely we are in need of believers who are unafraid of the threats of the disbelievers, yet kind and humble to the believing people; Muslims whose fast is compete and not just a source of hunger and thirst.

May Allah raise up a generation of Muslims who can carry Islam to all corners of the globe in a manner that befits our age, and may He give us the strength and the success to lay the proper foundations for them. May Allah make us of those who carry out our Islam during Ramadan and after it, and may He not make us of those who say what they do not do. Surely Allah and His Angels invoke blessings and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad. Oh you who believe send blessings and peace to him forever.


Did You Know?

- Many ancient-Greek writings, including the work of Aristotle, were introduced to Europe during the late Middle Ages by Islamic scholars.

- The Arab astronomer Al-Khwarizmi wrote several scientific books in the ninth century. Latin scholars later translated his work in the 13th century--introducing Europeans to the word "Algebra" and the place-value decimal system still in use today.

- The modern use of the Scientific Method was developed in early Muslim philosophy.

- Arab mathematician Ibn Al-Haitham advanced the science of optics in the 10th century, by solving particular problems related to the refraction of light.

- These familiar English words have their medieval origins in the language and scientific contributions of Islamic scholars: alkali, alchemy, alcohol, algorithm, almanac, zenith and zero.

- The upper-class of Europe practiced the art of Courtly Love during the later Middle Ages, which was influenced by Arabic poetry.


Thursday, September 4, 2008

UFO in Mumbai !

Hi all, I am sure u must have heard a lot about UFO's. This is the latest gosip these days that UFO was seen at gateway of India…Shocked…

That was the reaction when I heard about it as well..and couldn't believe it. Just checked youtube and what i found was unbelievable...A UFO that too in our what are u waiting for ...Just click on too the link and see the magiccc..

Wednesday, September 3, 2008

More on Ramadan..

As we all know - Ramadan is the ninth month of the Islamic lunar calendar. Every day during this month, Muslims around the world spend the daylight hours in a complete fast.

During the blessed month of Ramadan, Muslims all over the world abstain from food, drink, and other physical needs during the daylight hours. As a time to purify the soul, refocus attention on God, and practice self-sacrifice, Ramadan is much more than just not eating and drinking.

Muslims are called upon to use this month to re-evaluate their lives in light of Islamic guidance. We are to make peace with those who have wronged us, strengthen ties with family and friends, do away with bad habits -- essentially to clean up our lives, our thoughts, and our feelings. The Arabic word for "fasting" (sawm) literally means "to refrain" - and it means not only refraining from food and drink, but from evil actions, thoughts, and words.

During Ramadan, every part of the body must be restrained.

  • The tongue must be restrained from backbiting and gossip.
  • The eyes must restrain themselves from looking at unlawful things.
  • The hand must not touch or take anything that does not belong to it.
  • The ears must refrain from listening to idle talk or obscene words.
  • The feet must refrain from going to sinful places.

In such a way, every part of the body observes the fast.

Therefore, fasting is not merely physical, but is rather the total commitment of the person's body and soul to the spirit of the fast. Ramadan is a time to practice self-restraint; a time to cleanse the body and soul from impurities and re-focus one's self on the worship of God.

2-Sep-8, Ramadan

on 2nd Sep-08, we commenced Ramadan.

Ramadan: The third pillar of Islam, which is fasting, is practiced during the month of Ramadan. Ramadan is derived from an Arabic word for intense heat and scorched ground and it is the ninth month of the Islamic Hijri calendar, established in the year 638 CE. It is considered the most venerated, blessed and spiritually-beneficial month of the Islamic year. Prayers, fasting, charity, and self-accountability are especially stressed at this time; religious observances associated with Ramadan are kept throughout the month.

“Ramadan is the month during which the Quran was revealed, providing guidance for the people, clear teachings, and the statute book. Those of you who witness this month shall fast therein.

Those who are ill or traveling may substitute the same number of other days. Allah wishes for you convenience, not hardship, that you may fulfill your obligations, and to glorify Allah for guiding you, and to express your appreciation.”

Laylat al-Qadr (Night of Power) is considered the most holy night during Ramadan.

For Muslims all over the world, Ramadan is the best month-long exercise for refraining from internal and external misconduct. The ultimate point of fasting is to purify our spiritual soul from any sins. It teaches us so many things which is otherwise not possible.

Very importantly, it teaches us to control our nerves (nafs) , you may see people around you eating the best foods but because of fasting you get a power to control that urges. We learn to live with better control of our demands, of our urges. We learn to sacrifice !

It teaches you to help others, stay controlled, keep smiling, sharing, control on arrogance and make us all stand together to fight injustice and make this world a better world..

I hope this Ramadan is much more than just a once-a-year festivity. It's about struggling in all aspects of our lives. Let's do something that will make the future better. Hope for the best, but still prepare for the worst.